The Technological Context of Partner Violence: Digital Partner Violence

“Why are you online?”
Who are you talking to and still not answering me?
“I told you to unfollow this person.”
“Give me the password for your social media accounts.”
“I want you to close/hide your social media accounts.”

Do these sentences sound familiar? Have you heard these phrases from your partner before? Or did you say those words to your partner? These phrases are really digital partner violence sentence examples. So, what is this violence against a digital partner?

Let’s look at partner violence first. Partner violence can be defined as the desire of one partner to control the other through the use of force and pressure. Partner violence can take the form of psychological, physical, economic, sexual, social, or digital. In this context, digital partner violence can also be defined as the desire to control a person in a digital environment through the use of force and pressure.

How does digital partner violence manifest itself?

The perpetrator may aggressively send too many messages to his partner, question his every social media activity, ask him to unfollow some people on his social media account, frequently check his followers and follower lists, demand to close or hide his social media accounts. networks, or may require a password from social network accounts. In addition, digital partner violence can also occur along with sexual partner violence. For example, a perpetrator may insist on sending sexually explicit photos of their partner, take inappropriate photos of their partner without asking their consent, and threaten the partner to share those photos. All of these examples are digital partner violence and a clear violation of a person’s personal boundaries.

What are the signs of violence from a digital partner?

• If your partner wants to check the passwords of your social media accounts,
• If your partner wants you to delete some people by constantly checking your follow-up lists on your social media accounts,
• If he constantly checks your shares,
• If you photograph your sexuality without your consent,
• If he shares things that bring you down,
• If he constantly requires you to communicate with him and does not respect your personal boundaries,
• If they control your phone, computer, or other personal technology devices without your consent, you may be abused by a digital partner.

Of course, all this violates personal boundaries. good about it What can we do in the digital world?

• By setting our personal boundaries, we can respect each other’s boundaries.
• We may take some steps to ensure our safety on social media.
• In the event of any violation of rights, we can use our legal rights, and not hide it.
• In this regard, we may ask for support from our family, friends, loved ones or psychologists. We should not think that we are alone and helpless in this regard.
• “He acts like this, he’s jealous of me because he loves me.” We can learn that the stereotype is not true. Because what we call love or love includes freedom, not captivity. As Peter Lauster said, “Love can only thrive in the fertile environment of freedom.”

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