Tuesday, October 3

Are we ready to trust or always doubt?


When you look at your personal history, have you ever witnessed your sense of trust being abused many times? Were you able to easily distinguish a reliable person from an unreliable one? The answers to these questions are very painful in societies whose credibility has been undermined. It’s damaged many timesMany times we run into big problems because of our willingness to trust. In order to correctly pose this question, first of all, why are we so inclined to trust we need to understand.

History of course It starts with the brain. We are born physically in need of care. Because of this need, we become ready to establish social bonds. It has been experimentally proven that an infant begins to imitate the facial expressions of its mother within a few hours of birth, and in the same way, the mother reacts to the facial expressions and emotions of the child within a few seconds and begins to imitate him. In short, connection from the beginning and we are born to connect and I think that the feeling of “trust” has a lot to do with this feature of ours.

Research has shown that the brain chemistry that governs our emotions also plays a role in trust. neuroeconomics (Neuroeconomics is a field of science that combines the disciplines of economics, psychology, and neuroscience. Rather than looking at patterns of human behavior to interpret economics, it studies the structures of the brain to understand how and why these decisions are made.) Paul Zack, lead researcher on this area, said that oxytocin has both trust and reliability. It has been shown to increase people and play a role in creating positive emotional states and social connections. oxytocin these animals calmer and less anxious has been documented.

Our sense of trust comes into play with simple stimuli in the outside world. For example, we are very inclined to trust people who are physically similar to us. In a study conducted by researcher Lisa Debruyne, participants they trust people who are more like them much faster was revealed. They attribute this to the fact that our brains base physical resemblance on the possibility of relatedness.

There have also been many experiments that have shown that we love and trust those who belong to our social group more than strangers. This intra-group influence is so strong that a sense of solidarity can arise even with casual inclusion in small groups.

Physical contact is also closely related to the experience of trust. In an experiment to test trust decisions, the experimenter lightly touched the backs of some of the people who were the subjects of the experiment. And when the results were evaluated, it was observed that those who were touched were more likely to cooperate. It should not be a coincidence that the tradition of greeting people has survived to this day with elements such as a handshake.

As the study above shows, we don’t need to spend a lot of time deciding on trust. Even when we say we can’t trust easily, our behavior can tell a very different story. In fact, in many ways, “trust” is our default position; Even in a wide variety of social situations, we show confidence as a natural reflex and somewhat thoughtlessly. As Doris Brothers, a clinical psychologist, succinctly remarked, “Confidence is rarely a conscious awareness. We are no more inclined to ask ourselves how confident we are at any given moment than to wonder if gravity is still holding the planets in their orbits. I call this trend “hypothetical trust” to convey the idea that we trust many situations without a doubt. In most cases, this disposition serves us well. Unless we happen to be the victim of a serious breach of trust, most of us as adults have experience of confirming the basic trustworthiness of the people and institutions around us. When we trust, things rarely go wrong, so our willingness to trust is entirely reasonable.” If the Doris Brothers were doing their job in Turkey, how would their sentences change?

Our brain adapts to cues This can help us build trust in the first place, but it also makes us vulnerable to exploitation, manipulation, and fraud. In particular, our tendency to judge reliability based on physical similarity and other surface cues, combined with how we process information, can be disastrous. As we face these disasters daily in Turkey, perhaps what we need most is to learn to trust.

In our geography, we usually see what we want to see. Psychologists call this the confirmation bias. (Offset Confirmation- : a cognitive bias that causes people to search for, interpret, and remember information in ways that support their current beliefs.) Therefore, we pay more attention to the evidence that confirms our ideas about the world, and overestimate their importance, while underestimating inconsistencies or evidence to the contrary. Moreover, we tend to think that our own holistic judgments, including our judgments of who we can trust, are better than average.

As if the prejudices in our heads were not enough, we also listen to the prejudices of third parties. We often rely on these third parties to test the character or trustworthiness of others.

Research shows that we tend to trust too easily, too much, and for too long. two cognitive illusions definite.

First illusion is that we underestimate the possibility that bad things happen to us. Research into this illusion of personal immunity has shown that although we are objectively aware that such a risk exists, we think that we are unlikely to encounter some of life’s misfortunes. Our second illusion This is our unrealistic optimism. Numerous studies have shown that people in general are optimistic that something good will happen to them. (good marriage, successful career, long life, etc.) showed that they were exaggerating. Even when people are given accurate information about the true probabilities of such outcomes, they tend to think that they will still do better than average.

Eventually, our sense of trust can be easily abused This is an obvious fact. We can never be sure of someone else’s intentions, character, or future actions. We can simply make a more conscious choice to trust or not to trust.

Carl JungThe following ‘s statements are very instructive;

“Remember, you can only know yourself, and that knowledge is enough. Whereas you cannot know others and everything else.
Beware of knowledge outside of yourself, otherwise this supposed knowledge will stifle the life of those who know themselves. He who knows can know himself. This is his limit.
I painfully interrupted what I was doing, as if I knew what was coming next.
I cut myself off from the cyclical, smart comments I made about things I couldn’t handle. My knife goes deeper and separates the meanings that I ascribe to myself from myself. Until everything meaningful falls out of me, until it is no longer something I can think about, until I know what I am without knowing that I just am.

Man can only know himself however, when it comes to our tendency to trust, we freely draw conclusions about the beliefs and impressions of others and cling to those conclusions. Our self-confidence or incredulity prepares us for possible disappointment. Sometimes others are beautiful, and sometimes we assume the worst about them. So perhaps our first point of contact which side are we coded from find it. Fine is to know yourself. Are we ready to trust or always doubt? Our answer to this question will determine what we need to work on. If we are trustworthy but tend to trust the wrong people, we can more consciously interpret the signals we receive. If we’re good at recognizing signals but having difficulty building trust, then we should be able to expand our repertoire of behaviors.

Our predisposition to trust or not to trust is essentially a survival mechanism. In both cases, we are actually moving in the dark. That is why we need to start learning to trust in a healthy way. But the main thing is to be able to trust Above all, we must be reliable ourselves.

Resources: Carl Jung – Red Book, Paul Zeck – The Neurology of Trust, Roderick Kramer – Rethinking Trust

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